I BELIEVE....Sex is a priority

I Believe that  sexual intimacy isn’t THE priority of my life, but it is a priority in a very important area of my life - my life with my husband.  Because of my past struggles and present fulfillment in intimacy, I feel called to share and help others in this area.

I Believe that dynamic relationships produce effective teams, resulting in strong communities and profitable companies. In marriage, the couple has great potential to be an effective team bringing health and strength to their family unit and community.

In marriage, sexual intimacy is key to having a dynamic relationship.

Thus I create venues and information that especially help women desire/crave sex with their husbands. That's why I wrote:                                                                             
"Silk On Fire: The Ultimate Guide On Craving Sex With Your Husband" (which can be purchased at silkonfirebook)

I Believe we have seasons in life that can change. I Believe that my relationship with my Creator enters every part of my life no matter the changes. These 3 areas of my life are rooted in that relationship: Life with my husband... Life with my children... Life with others - - in business and serving.  So if you hear, see or feel that part of me..... that is why.

I just felt like sharing some of my beliefs with you so you can know me better.

💖From the bottom of my heart to yours,

Karen

My Promise to Share: What Our Current Weekly 15 Hours of Love Looks Like (1 example)

I'll give you an example of what our weekly 15 Hours of Love looks like now ....since all children are grown. (and most have left the nest)

SUNDAY: 8:30-9:30am BREAKFAST TOGETHER-alone at the dining room ranch table.
                  2:00-3:00 Conversation

MONDAY: 12:30pm-5:00pm  DATE DAY- Lunched together/1 hr. drive/simple errands
                     8:00pm-10:00pm  conversation, massage and love-making

WEDNESDAY: 4 hours round trip drive to Kamloops/lunch 1.50 hrs./

THURSDAY: Not much

FRIDAY: 5:00-7pm.  a drive and a light supper out
                 9:00-10:00 love-making

SATURDAY: 9:00-10:00am   Conversation while giving Ian a haircut ✂

Sometimes we now have the advantage of having impromptu outings and longer outings but it still takes intentional focus to schedule our time together weekly. 

Cheers,
Karen

My Actual 15 Hours of Love

Staying on the subject of Weekly 15 Hours of Love; I am going to share with you what one of my weeks looked like. Although I address the need for weekly 15 hours spent with your spouses in my book, Silk On Fire:The Ultimate Guide On Craving Sex With Your Husband  (check out book)   I don't go into detail of what an actual week might look like. (Next time I'll give you an example of what our weekly 15 Hours of Love looks like now since all children are grown.) I still remember what one of our weeks looked like when I was a mom with 5 children in the home and 2 children attending college. Our Weekly 15 hours of Love looked something like this:

SUNDAY: 3-5pm Motorbike ride with spouse while Auntie watches the young ones plus collaborating  over our schedule and syncing it for the week.                            

MONDAY: 5- 8pm --DATE NIGHT--the 15 year old babysits for 3 hours.
8-9pm After attending to baby, and getting him to sleep; 1 hour of intimacy with spouse

WEDNESDAY:  2-3pm Conversation after lunch. 8-10pm. Studying together for our class.

THURSDAY: 6-7am Breakfast upstairs in the office. (gave instructions to my oldest to    
pick up baby when he awoke and change and play with him)

FRIDAY: 8-10pm A game of chess and foot rubs in the living room. children are sleeping or hanging out in rec room downstairs.

SATURDAY: 2-4pm Feed children and hired man early and while baby takes nap, Ian and I  have lunch on the veranda. 8-10pm After young ones in bed and before teen gets home--intimacy!

 Everyone's household is different and perks at a different rate but Weekly 15 Hours of Love always takes planning and scheduling. Then and today if we somehow miss the scheduled time we, as soon as possible, talk about it and see where we can change other things around to squeeze in the lost time.
And sometimes, just sometimes we get in more time than scheduled. Woo Hoo!

So until next time when I share what a current Weekly 15 Hours of Love looks like now that all children have grown and we are semi-retired from ranch---

Cheers,  Karen

15 Hours of Love

Hello Beautiful People!

In His Needs, Her Needs, Dr. Willard Harley explains that a couple needs fifteen hours a week alone together with no other family, friends, or acquaintances—that's right, fifteen hours! When I read this I was into it! However my dear husband thought Harley was crazy. So we set out to prove him wrong while trying it out. After all we had 5 children ages ranging from baby to teens. I was home-educating and my husband was full time ranching and part-time pastoring. How could it possibly work?

With much planning and disciplined scheduling the 15 hours of Love became a reality, and my sexual desire for my husband rose! I kept track. As the 15 hours would sometimes wane to only 4-8 hours a week, I noticed  that my annoyance with Ian over small things would increase and my desire for intimacy would decrease. We therefore plan our weekly schedule around our 15 Hours.

For 25 years we continue to prioritize our 15 hours of Love!

Your weekly 15 hours of love can be any time spent together, a game of chess, cycling or salting the sheep in the pasture, as long as it’s just the two of you together, communicating.
Cheers, Karen