GRATITUDE SERIES: Gratitude #6

He Hasn't Abandoned Me! And so he shouldn't...but how many friends do you know whose husbands have?!  Of course I don't think or suspect my husband ever would but neither did I think theirs would have either. It is shocking how many mates abandon their families and spouses;  and not necessarily physically leaving, but emotionally leaving; men who abandon their wive's emotional needs, men whose addictions drive them to emotionally  leaving  their wives and families. If you are a female spouse whose man has lovingly stayed by your side.... be grateful.  I know some women who read this might be thinking, "Why should I thank him for doing what he and I committed to?" Let me clarify. I don't mean you should be grateful in a, "I don't deserve you to be so loving to me...you could have walked out like so many husbands."  Not at all. But I do believe we should live in an ever-grateful space. If your husband is continuing to be loyal and standing by your side, physically and emotionally....thank God that he is standing by his vows and his love for you.

GRATITUDE SERIES: Gratitude #5

Gratitude #5-- "His Physical Attributes"
When we are young the physical attributes are many...when we are older they maybe less, the abs are gone, full head of hair traded in for bald, loss of strength;  but we can still think of some. I love my husbands legs, tight glutes and quads. His hands are so strong and sexy. His eyes look amazing and go with many shirt colours. His back is like a mountain of strength.
As we age, we women are not turned on so much by the physical, but there are still things we appreciate and it is good to concentrate on those.They, with the other gratitudes can bring us to a place of having sexy feelings again for our mate.

GRATITUDE SERIES: Gratitude #4

Gratitude #4-- What a great provider he is.
Many times I have been disappointed that my 'hot to trot' feelings for my husband just disappeared for a season.  There have been times that, I want to have sexual intimacy but I  find myself so sad that I am not feeling those great sexy feelings at the moment for my hubby. That's when I have to look at all the things I am grateful for. One of those is that he has always been there to provide for me and our children. And so I concentrate on what a champion he is; what a hero to go to work every day and hand over the paycheck for our family's  needs. This intentional focus helps to stir up those 'hot to trot' feelings once again.  Of course, as you know, I believe that there are a lot more things we women need to do and to stand up for in our relationship with our husbands other than just this. I talk extensively in my book about our needs as women and why we should hold our husbands accountable to meet them; but in this blog section,  I am just concentrating on the Gratitude Series.

GRATITUDE: Gratitude #3

Gratitude #3--I love the way he fathers our children.
Since the day they were born, my dear Ian has taken an equal interest in nurturing and protecting them; playing with/and mentoring them. Because of my husband's vocation, he was never able to take a lot of time on weekends or holidays to fish, bike, play, swim go to movies etc. like other dads; but he made the most of every opportunity with our children as he took them on work events and taught them every moment he was with them; moving a small flock of lambs and ewes in the spring with his four-year olds, conversing with them as they grew up on sheep moves, teaching them how to run machinery, productively and safely, taking them to business conferences, trips to Kamloops; taking them out for lunch on a one-on-one. Today, more than one of our children say that those lunches were the best time they ever spent with their Dad. Even when I was tired and one of our teenagers wanted to talk late into the evening, I might pass out but their father always took the time to listen and chat with them.
I am so thankful the way he still fathers our children.

GRATITUDE SERIES: Gratitude #2

Gratitude #2--He Still Desires Me
How many times have we, as wives, groaned as our mates hungrily look at us with excitement in their eyes, as we change into our bedtime attire.  I have. Now I am grateful for those looks; realizing that many husbands have lost interest in 'the wife of their youth'. Regarding some men, due to illness or disinterest in sex or cheating with another woman, those looks are not there any more. Don't want sex as much  as he does? So what....just laugh it off and be grateful. Want to desire sex more with your husband? Fantastic! Great idea. It's possible! Get my book. "Silk on Fire: The Ultimate Guide On Craving Sex With Your Husband". Learn how to crave sex more and be sexually fulfilled. Above all, be grateful that he still craves/desires/wants YOU.

GRATITUDE SERIES: Gratitude #1

 When our spirit is rebellious towards sexual activity in our relationship or our spirit is blah or we are feeling very negative about our attraction to our spouse; here is a sure-fire way to improve our spirit towards  him: "Gratitude", recognizing it, speaking it out to our spouse, daily. So I decided to create a series of gratitude blogs; seven to be exact and the first one is:

Gratitude #1--grateful to being able to touch him in the night
I was struggling in my dreams, fitful, then  rolled over, felt him so warm and solid beside me. A wave of gratitude came rushing over me for being able to just touch him and feel him snuggled close. I have many friends whose husbands are working away, or worse have abandoned them or passed away. But mine is so close I can touch him much of the day. Thank you Thank you Lord.

Does eveything REALLY happen for a reason?

I don't believe that 'everything happens for a reason'.  I believe that our choices lead us to results that reflect those choices.  It is true that some events (good or bad) happen to us that have nothing to do with our choices and I am not referring to those events.  I am referring to our willful choices such as:

--The choice to watch T.V./Netflix instead of having a quiet conversation with our mate

--The choice to take a phone call instead of turning off our phone and cuddling up to our spouse.

--The choice to not work full-time but instead free up personal time to be with spouse

--The choice to stay off the "board" this year and instead have those nights for sexual intimacy with spouse

--The choice to let someone else take responsibility for a particular “good humanitarian work” in order to free yourself for recreation time with your husband.

--etc.etc.

Our choices will lead us to results that reflect those choices.  What results do you want in  your relationship with your spouse?

From the bottom of my heart,

Karen